In regards to vibration. “Joy” is higher up than “Love”. This is why I feel lots of us have been confused with our TFs and our strong (karmic/dharmic) soulmates.
I have always had love for my ex-wife. I was told that she was my best soulmate and the one I have shared most lifetimes with. This is why it was tough to move out from her due to the catalyst-twin and to stay away from her due to my real twin flame.
However, why I feel that my presumed real TF is my real TF is among others that she really made me laugh. Not many women I’ve dated have managed to hit the humour-nail on the head as her. I’m usually the one making people laugh, but here I (kind of) met my own soul in a different body. She really brings/brought joy to my heart. Even if she had dark attachments and toxic traits, both of us managed to get the inner-children out for fun and playfulness. Furthermore, the most important thing is that I felt that she also brought out her childishness with me. It’s like both TFs felt so at (esoterical) home and safe when with each other, that they fully dared to let their guards down.
In her presence, especially after not seeing her for a time, I would feel joy… until we triggered each other later on. When we then left each other for some days, my heart would again break excruciatingly because a part of me stayed with her.
It’s very interesting to compare her with my ex-wife because I have strong love to my ex. But with my TF, I feel or felt at home like a child with lots of fun, talks about everything, also doing lots of joyful and new things; like trying padel-tennis, SUP-board, cinema, hiking, bars, skiing, spa-resorts, playing Playstation or Nintendo, fun walks etc. My point is that with your TF, you will have joy and love, but with your soulmate; probably only love after meeting your TF. There is the difference, even if it’s tough to differentiate. But maybe this can make it easier to pull away from a strong soulmate.
We all know that your TF also pushes all of your buttons for your awakening and transformation so that you experience many DNOTS and egodeaths to heal your self-limitations, so it’s not all fun and joy 😅🤦🏿♂️💔.
However, it’s rather interesting to see that joy is very high vibrational, even more so than love. This explains why so many TFs really are glad when with their TFs. I’ve also noticed that in the relationship with a catalyst-twin or strong soulmate, it’s not that easy to get out the inner-children in both of you. I really don’t remember my ex-wife letting all her guards down, not either the catalyst-twin, but with my TF, it happened almost immediately. Already from our first date we were laughing and having fun, while also triggering each other on our vulnerabilities.
Joy is the end game because it makes you vibrate higher, so please focus on laughing and having fun. However, if the activities are joyful at first, but make you low vibrational (shame, guilt, not right) after, for example some vile acts or addictions like sex, alcohol, drugs, ONS etc, then those activities don’t bring real and healthy joy.
Maybe this can help some of you discern your current situations more easily.
Love, light, and laughter ❤️🔥🤣
